2013 didn’t turn out like anything I expected. It did have it’s wonderful, memorable events: beautiful weddings, cute babies, lots of laughter, exciting travels, new friendships, etc. But there were also many tears, one too many scary moments, angry words, and difficult questions to ask with not many answers. As with any passing year, what should we do with it? Part of me only wants to remember the happy moments and to shove the rest into the closet, never to think about them again. However, we all know that’s not a healthy response. I wrote a post last year about the stages of grief and I truly believe that for each year one should celebrate the happy moments, big & small, but also to grieve the losses. This includes addressing the fears, which might continue into the new year. 2014 has its own unknowns. We can either fear them or accept their existence. I’m not saying that we have to like them but we do have to come to terms these fears & unknowns in order to keep moving forward.
I am slowly learning that the life with chronic pain or with autoimmune diseases comes with many unknowns. We might receive conflicting diagnoses from doctors or just generic diagnoses that leave you in a state of what the heck am I supposed to do with that. I firmly believe that we need to learn how to enjoy the times of remissions, no matter how short, and how to have peace when symptoms worsen or new ones appear. One very important lesson I’ve learned in the past is that there are always new treatments, exercises, skills, etc. which we can try to see whether or not they will ease our symptoms or decrease the pain. I plan on continuing to seek them out this new year and encourage you to do the same.
I’ve never been big on New Year’s resolutions probably because I find them difficult to keep 😛 But I wanted to share a few of mine for 2014 with you (Warning! They are very simple and not at all grandiose.) :
- To take one day at a time
- To celebrate the small successes
- To be gracious and patient with myself on the good days but especially on the ones when symptoms increase or new ones appear
- To have an attitude of gratefulness, especially for life’s small gifts
I could wish for you less pain and decreased symptoms this new year. But I would rather hope you have the will to fight for your health each day, to be at peace during the confusing and difficult periods, and find joy in the small, beautiful moments of life.